The United Synagogue is committed to inclusion for people with disabilities in all aspects of community life. Ahead of Pesach, Michael Ross, an ADHD coach, shared with us his top tips to help neurodivergent families have wonderful Seder nights.
- Encourage everyone to take a nap in the afternoon.
- Got hyperactive kids (or adults)? Send them outside to burn off some steam – whether they’re chasing the dog, an imaginary plague, or just their own thoughts. Anything to release the energy before sundown.
- Stretch, breathe, sway like a reed – call it yoga or call it self-preservation. Whatever helps you feel relaxed before the chaos begins.
- Feed them first!
- Ear defenders are holy objects – keep spares.
- Designate a chill-out zone.
- Make a visual schedule.
- Give the kids jobs.
- Fidget toys.
- Tell people what’s happening.
- Breaks are fine.
- Bring on the puppets.
- Sensory overload is real – have lights dimmed beforehand.
- Expect chaos. Invite it in. Offer it matzah.
- And remember – your kids will pick up on your mood. If you’re calm, they’re more likely to stay calm(ish). So give yourself the space to reset before Seder begins.
Chag Pesach Kasher v’Sameach!